“His divine power has given us everything we need for a godly life through our knowledge of him who called us by his own glory and goodness. Through these he has given us his very great and precious promises, so that through them you may participate in the divine nature, having escaped the corruption in the world caused by evil desires. For this very reason, make every effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge; and to knowledge, self-control; and to self-control, perseverance; and to perseverance, godliness; and to godliness, mutual affection; and to mutual affection, love” (2 Peter 1:3-7).

We started this series on Godliness several weeks ago, looking at Peter’s instructions about growing in our godly life. We are instructed to make every effort to add certain character attributes to the foundation of our faith so as to participate in God’s divine nature.

If you have worked your way through these past few Chaplain’s Corner devotionals, you might feel fairly proud of yourself, and that is okay. (It is okay to take pride in what God is doing in your life, as long as you give God the credit.)

And then we top it all off with making “every effort to add…love.” Love is a tricky word. We overuse it, applying the feeling of love to things that are inanimate and fleeting, such as chocolate (guilty!). Love as a feeling can be so fickle—one day I “love” my neighbor, and another day not so much. The best way to sort this out is to realize that “love” is a verb. It is an action. Feelings can be fickle; but with the fruit of the spirit—self-control—I can take responsibility for my actions.

Back in 2019, I did a series of devotions on 1 Corinthians 13, sometimes called the “Love Chapter.” Below are links to those devotions which explain this marvelous teaching on what it means to love. I hope you will take some time to read them.

• The Greatest of These Is Love
• Love Is Patient
• Love Is Kind
• Love Does Not Envy
• Love Does Not Boast; It Is Not Proud
• Love Is Not Self Seeking
• Love Is Not Easily Angered
• Love Rejoices with the Truth
• Love Always Protects
• Love Always Trusts, Always Hopes
• Love Never Fails

When Paul writes that the greatest of these is love, he is not saying that love is more monumental or more important than faith or hope. What he is trying to get across is that love is transcendent. Other attributes such as faith and hope will be answered and resolved by our death and subsequent entry into heaven. But love will transcend death into eternity. John Piper says, “…in this present life, every relationship of love, and faithfulness, and loyalty, and sacrifice, and care will be celebrated for all eternity in tribute to the grace of God and the faithfulness of his obedient child. The ‘well done, good and faithful servant’ that Jesus speaks to his faithful followers at the resurrection is a well done in every fruitful relationship. Well done for that beautiful love. Well done.”

Love is eternal: “Prophecy and speaking in unknown languages and special knowledge will become useless. But love will last forever! Now our knowledge is partial and incomplete, and even the gift of prophecy reveals only part of the whole picture! But when the time of perfection comes, these partial things will become useless…. Three things will last forever—faith, hope, and love—and the greatest of these is love” (1 Corinthians 13:8-10, 13 – NLT).

In Christ,

Judy

“His divine power has given us everything we need for a godly life through our knowledge of him who called us by his own glory and goodness. Through these he has given us his very great and precious promises, so that through them you may participate in the divine nature, having escaped the corruption in the world caused by evil desires. For this very reason, make every effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge; and to knowledge, self-control; and to self-control, perseverance; and to perseverance, godliness; and to godliness, mutual affection; and to mutual affection, love” (2 Peter 1:3-7).

We started this series on Godliness several weeks ago, looking at Peter’s instructions about growing in our godly life. We are closing in on the ultimate pursuit, which is love. That will be our topic for next week. This week is the penultimate (word for the day: look it up) objective, and that is mutual affection. We are to strive for mutual affection.

Thinking literally about this results in a conundrum. Since mutual means something that is experienced by two people, how can we strive for something that is also the responsibility of the other person? Stay with me and we will figure it out.

Starting with affection, we understand affection to be a feeling of liking or caring for someone, a tender attachment, fondness. When we feel this way about someone, we want to show it. We demonstrate affection by our actions. The opposite of affection is being detached, uncaring, unloving, and perhaps even rejection, hatred, loathing. When we feel affection toward someone, we naturally want them to be happy, pleased, healthy, to have all the good things, and we will do what we can to provide these things for them. That further means that we will act with the intention for them to be pleased or at least for it to be for their good and not their harm. We are not being affectionate to serve our own purposes. Truly demonstrating affection is other-focused; it recalls all the “one-another’s” that the Bible teaches (here are just a few):

• Be kind to one another (Ephesians 4:32a)
• Forgive one another (Ephesians 4:32b, Colossians 3:13b)
• Bear with one another (Ephesians 4:2-3, Colossians 3:13a)
• Encourage one another (Hebrews 10:24)
• Do good to one another (1 Thessalonians 5:15)
• Serve one another (Galatians 5:13, 1 Peter 4:10)

So how do all these commands jibe with the adjective “mutual?” A key would be communication. We must be open and transparent with each other, asking what is pleasing to the other, and sensitive to both verbal and nonverbal feedback. We always assume the best intentions from the other. And since we can only be responsible for our own actions, we set the example. We do not give up, even when our affection is not reciprocated, because over time, the odds are that it will be.

Lastly: in order for our desire and effort toward mutual affection to be genuine, the foundation of the preceding attributes in our key passage must be in place. Faith, goodness, knowledge, self-control, perseverance, and godliness must be increasing in our own lives to be the kind of person who is genuinely affectionate—with all that implies—toward another in a way that models and inspires those same attributes in the other.

Paul tells us in Romans 12:18 “If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.” So, while we cannot control someone else’s response, we are still accountable to do our very best to show true affection for one another.

“Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor” (Romans 12:10).

In Christ,

Judy