“You shall not covet your neighbor’s house. You shall not covet your neighbor’s wife, or his male or female servant, his ox or donkey, or anything that belongs to your neighbor.” (Exodus 20:17)
This tenth commandment is interesting. The seventh commandment has already forbidden the act of adultery, and the eighth commandment has already forbidden the act of stealing. Thou shalt not covet is a commandment for our hearts and minds. It is a commandment that says we should not even desire those relationships or things that belong to someone else. This is especially hard in today’s world. In our day and age of Intense marketing everywhere you look and a culture that constantly reinforces that you can and should have it all–immediate gratification—it is challenging not to succumb to the feeling that we need everything we see. I really dislike the feeling of manipulation I experience going to a shopping mall. I walk in thinking I will just look around but not buy anything, and shortly thereafter I begin seeing so many items that I suddenly cannot live without. Have you ever bought something on impulse, then got it home and didn’t even open the package for days? Maybe you found it later stashed away and could not even remember why you bought it. Okay, me neither.
James writes about the link between our desires and our subsequent actions. He says, “What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you? You desire but do not have, so you kill. You covet but you cannot get what you want, so you quarrel and fight. You do not have because you do not ask God. When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures.” (James 4:1-3)
In the above passage, James gives us two clues to overcome covetousness, and note that these work hand in hand:
- You do not have because you do not ask God. Whenever we want anything, the first step is to lay it before God. “Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you” (Matthew 7:7).
- When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives. First, ask Him to align your heart with His. “Take delight in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart” (Psalm 37:4).
Maybe you want that pair of shoes more than your next meal. Lay it before God and tell him how you feel. If you ask God and align your heart with his, he will do one of two things: 1. He will grant your desire, or 2. You will find that you do not really want those shoes anymore.
Personally, I find it easier to begin something than to stop anything, so when I think about trying to stop covetousness, I find that it is helpful to practice the opposite, which is contentment. Paul wrote about contentment from prison: “I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want.” (Philippians 4:12)
So, you may ask, what is the secret of being content in any and every situation? How can we be so content that we covet nothing? Max Lucado says the secret is simply this: “Count your blessings and focus more on what you have and less on what you don’t!” (1 Thessalonians 5:18).
I use the passage from Proverbs 30:8-9 as my personal prayer most days:
Keep falsehood and lies far from me;
give me neither poverty nor riches,
but give me only my daily bread.
9 Otherwise, I may have too much and disown you
and say, ‘Who is the Lord?’
Or I may become poor and steal,
and so dishonor the name of my God.
Paul, in his teaching to the young pastor Timothy, gives us all good advice: But godliness with contentment is great gain. 7 For we brought nothing into the world, and we can take nothing out of it. 8 But if we have food and clothing, we will be content with that. 9 Those who want to get rich fall into temptation and a trap and into many foolish and harmful desires that plunge people into ruin and destruction. 10 For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil. Some people, eager for money, have wandered from the faith and pierced themselves with many griefs. 11 But you, man (and woman) of God, flee from all this, and pursue righteousness, godliness, faith, love, endurance, and gentleness. 12 Fight the good fight of the faith. Take hold of the eternal life to which you were called when you made your good confession in the presence of many witnesses.
This concludes our study on the Ten Commandments. Although these commands were given by God to Moses early in the formation of the Jewish faith, obedience to the law–and the spirit of the law as amplified by New Testament teaching–remain essential to us as Christians. God told us that he prefers obedience to sacrifice, and Jesus reinforced this by saying “If you love me, keep my commands.” I will refer us to a verse we have used before to sum up this teaching and guide us in our obedience:
“Let no debt remain outstanding, except the continuing debt to love one another, for whoever loves others has fulfilled the law. The commandments, “You shall not commit adultery,” “You shall not murder,” “You shall not steal,” “You shall not covet,” and whatever other command there may be, are summed up in this one command: “Love your neighbor as yourself.” Love does no harm to a neighbor. Therefore, love is the fulfillment of the law. (Romans 13:8-10)
In Christ,
Judy